Try the following exercise to ease the pain and help you move on.
         spend a few moments thinking about the positive aspects of the events  that you hurful.For example
          ,did the event help you....
             •   grow stronger or become aware of personal strengths that you
                        didn’t realize you had?
             •     appreciate certain aspects of your life more than before?
             •     become a wiser person?
             •     enhance important relationships or end bad ones?
             •     become more skilled at communicating your feelings?
             •     bolster your confidence?
             •     develop into a more compassionate or forgiving person?
             •     repair and strengthen your relationship ,who with a person who hurt you?
        

 

    Identify any of your own shortcomings that may stand in the way of  your happiness?
  Write down how you have benefited from the experience and  how your life is better as a result of what happened. Do not  withhold anything and be as honest as possible.

Here is a simple exercise called “centering” that you might find helpful for quieting your mind. This exercise is my stripped-down version of a practice known as “centering prayer.” I have removed the spiritual and religious parts to make a simpler exercise. If you are curious about the more complex Christian practice of centering prayer, check out books by Fr. Thomas Keating.

Here are the steps:

• Start by sitting in a relaxed position. Slow down your breathing, and try to relax your body.

• Think of a simple word to focus your attention on. I like using words such as “quiet,” “calm,” “relax,” “peace,” or “sleep.”

• Say the word silently in your mind and wait. As a thought, image, or feeling enters your mind, you will do two things: Do not resist, and do not retain.

• “Do not resist” means you will allow the thought or feeling to arrive. Think of it as something floating along down the stream of your thoughts. Even if it is an unpleasant feeling or thought, allow it to enter.

• “Do not retain” means that you will let the thought float away down the stream. You will let go of it and wave good-bye.

• After letting go of the thought or image, return to your word. Say it again silently and wait.

• As more thoughts arise, repeat the same steps. Do not resist, and do not retain. Return to your word and speak it silently.

This exercise will help you strengthen your ability to let go of persistent impulses and inner chatter that trouble your mind. Try doing it for a few minutes at a time when you feel calm and comfortable, to get used to quieting yourself. If you practice it every day, you will become better at quieting your thoughts when you are in an emotionally charged situation.

 

Take a mind and body break
 “Do you ever feel overwhelmed, just can’t think clearly, frustrated and muddled and not getting anything done?” Darlene Nicholson, a meditation and mindfulness teacher, asks.
“Well, you’re not alone. Stress is epidemic and often times we are just trying to tackle too much.”
 Ms Nicholson suggests trying this simple technique to clear your mind so you can refocus on what needs to be done.
 • Stop for a moment and just be still.
 • Take a few deep breaths. Inhale through the nostrils and sigh the breath out.
 • Gently close your eyes and monitor your breath for a few moments.
 • When you are ready, open your eyes and notice how much clearer you feel.
 • Smiling will also help you feel lighter and brighter

Grand Master Anatole explains Taoism

 

When we are forced to do something whether by guilt, social value,( tricks for the herd)or simply necessity ,life will not succeed very happy. Only when our purpose and our desires values and principles are lined up will we experience long-term contentment

 Examine Your Commitments

 The age  brain is completely developed probably at least till 23 of age

 

 

 

 

 

Now you can see a lot of the confusion in the world especially United States
     we have this magic number 18 years old in our heads and we honestly believe our children are now growing
but scientists ours telling us it's a bit too young this is why our prisons are full of young people

 

This is why the government wants your sons to enlist in the service at this time because it knows if it waits a few more years your son would be more likely to tell them to go to hell especially after their brain is fully developed.

 

This explains why most marriages will fail if they are married before the age of 24 This explains why suicide rate between 18 and 23 so high (they torture and threats for 20 odd years that they expect you to pick a career and when you really can't function are so full of fear J.L.)

 

 

 

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