Choosing my conversations
Choosing my conversations
Philippians 4:8
Brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things
are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise,think on these things.
Avoid negative people !
Our whole life is a series of events . 85% is a series of conversations. think about the word conversation. This
word means more than listening and talking to other people it can just well apply to the way we interact with books magazines,
movies, TV programs advertisements radio programs any source of ideas, information.
And let's not forget the way we communicate to ourselves and our talk that chatter constantly in our minds,perhaps this sound that is disagreeing with this right now. We human beings are always engage same form of conversation. Now think of the power he had over our emotions, and feelings at any given time. We enter into conversation probably 99% of the time unconsciously and go where ever it takes us imagine. Now becoming aware of entering into the state and space of conversation and then deliberately deciding what we are to think on .
And let's not forget the way we communicate to ourselves and our talk that chatter constantly in our minds,perhaps this sound that is disagreeing with this right now. We human beings are always engage same form of conversation. Now think of the power he had over our emotions, and feelings at any given time. We enter into conversation probably 99% of the time unconsciously and go where ever it takes us imagine. Now becoming aware of entering into the state and space of conversation and then deliberately deciding what we are to think on .
I will post some spiritual exercises . I hope you experiment and keep a journal on how it works out . And I would love to hear from
you if you tried these exercises and what your experiences were a you can e-mail me at Fastry@frank4zen.com
The only good reasons to enter conversation is:
to enjoy
to learn
to help.
The other reason especially to criticize or to make
someone feel bad are not good reasons. Perhaps the first thing we should do when we enter into a conversation is become aware of why
we are here in the first place
Instead of falling into conversation by default or accidents we become aware of the way we are talking listening to think a simple
shift in awareness can make a huge difference in our lives as we start to charge of what occupies 75% of our waking hours
Listen with your head-heart connection pause
Listening with the intent of understanding.
Listen for the message and the message is behind the message.
Listen for both content and feeling.
Listen or others intersts not just their position.
Listen for what they are saying and what they are not saying.
Listen for everything and acceptance.
Listen for the area where you are afraid and hurt.
Listen as soon as you would like to be listened to.
Listening with the intent of understanding.
Listen for the message and the message is behind the message.
Listen for both content and feeling.
Listen or others intersts not just their position.
Listen for what they are saying and what they are not saying.
Listen for everything and acceptance.
Listen for the area where you are afraid and hurt.
Listen as soon as you would like to be listened to.
Exercise:1 on choosing conversations
Journal entry
At the end of the day or sooner
recall every conversation(non-business)
and to whom it was with
. Write down their names and nature of conversation , excluding conversations that
take place in the course of customer service (work with customers ) include coworkers of any conversation not related to work or
in the course of your job
And what you really are trying to remember is if you enter conversation consciously or by default
Was
it for to learn
to help
or to enjoy
Exercise:2 on choosing conversations
Always have prepared questions in mind, if conversation is not going towards love and peace
and beauty for example: in other words consciously change the subject when necessary.(Take control of your conversations)
We
can ask the other parties what are the most important thing she's learned about going along with people?
If you could read only
10 books during the rest of your life what would they be?
Who was your favorite teacher in school and what was the most
important thing you learned from that person?
If you were healthy and had financed security, they only had six months to
live what would you do?
What do you want your obituary to say about you?
What was the most single important
thing you could do to eliminate hunger or lower crime rate Or the threat of war or improve our schools?
What would be the three
most important things you would want your children to learn?
I'm sure you can come up with your own list
4,000 Questions for Getting to Know Anyone and Everyone by Barbara Ann Kipfer
Don't forget to bounce their conversation space
Ask yourself this question when entering in conversation where is the conversation resting right now
The past, The Presence
or The Future
If it is on the future : over worry or action of the positive actions. You can take? Are you talking about the future
you want or the future you do not and consider has more power into your life
Remember to journal this if nothing else, just notice
I am committed.
I commit myself that when I am with people I've will assist them to speak about the future and in a positive way To
forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
Tell your Truth. As much as you’re ready for.
Take Risks. As deep as you dare without doing harm. There is no growth with- Out risk.
Pay Attention to .Your Body. Breathe and focus on your internal process.
Express your Feelings. Be alive and in touch
Take Personal Responsibility. Own your thoughts, words, actions, experiences and choices.
Make “I” Statements. Taking responsibility more and blaming less.
Speak Directly to Person You Are Talking To or About
Stay in the Here-and-Now.
Avoid the Use of Globalisms. e.g. everyone does that - we all feel that way.
If You Don’t Like What’s Happening, Say or Do Something About It. (You may or may not get what you want)
Honor and Allow Silence When it Happens. Notice what is happening when nothing is happening.
Take Risks. As deep as you dare without doing harm. There is no growth with- Out risk.
Pay Attention to .Your Body. Breathe and focus on your internal process.
Express your Feelings. Be alive and in touch
Take Personal Responsibility. Own your thoughts, words, actions, experiences and choices.
Make “I” Statements. Taking responsibility more and blaming less.
Speak Directly to Person You Are Talking To or About
Stay in the Here-and-Now.
Avoid the Use of Globalisms. e.g. everyone does that - we all feel that way.
If You Don’t Like What’s Happening, Say or Do Something About It. (You may or may not get what you want)
Honor and Allow Silence When it Happens. Notice what is happening when nothing is happening.
Don't forget to use advertisements
Advertise yourself ,self talk is very
important.In your journal should be full of positive statements about you, who you are and where you stand and where you're going
you need to read the statements often.
