This approach to attitude adjustment is easy to try:
(1) Start by noticing the emotions you experience when you interact with your difficult colleagues. Do you typically feel angry, tense or frustrated? Do you experience tension in certain parts of your body?
(2)
Consider an alternative emotional state that might feel less stressful and also could generate a more positive response from your
colleagues.
(3) Craft a simple phrase, like “I am calm and I feel compassion in my heart,” to help you achieve the emotional state
that you believe will be positive and helpful.
(4) Practice summoning up the state you want when you are in non-threatening situations,
like preparing to talk with servers in a restaurant. To do so, repeat your affirming phrase inside your own head. And visualize your
breath as a calming stream flowing to the parts of your body where you are most likely to experience tension.
(5) Once you have practiced
summoning up the more positive emotional state, try it out with your difficult colleagues. If you consistently choose a positive attitude
when you approach them, you may find your relationships becoming less stressful and more productive.
Can Taoist drink? Of course! In Taoism, we do not have any rules saying that you cannot drink. In fact, we encourage you to drink with wisdom! We are not joking here but drinking is a way to enjoy life and there is a lot of wisdom and knowledge behind it as well. As long as you are drinking legally and you are drinking for enjoyment that is a good thing. Drinking can relax yourself but you must drink right to not harm yourself. In our lineage, Tin Yat Lineage, we even teach you how to drink in our section on “Tao.Taste”.
- Drinking legally is a very important thing. It is because we must perform our actions to cultivate virtues. If we do all kinds of illegal things, we are breaking laws, we are then not respecting our own society, not being truthful, not being trustworthy and not being loyal to our own land. The land have laws and all must follow it for it to run smooth. If you can break the law now, you are not only breaking the law, you are also making the society troublesome and you are also creating more chances of disasters happening as well. If you are too young, it is not good to drink because it is bad for health. If you are too young and you drink, you might get drunk and do silly things which might lead to many problems as well. Even though adults can do more disastrous things when they are drunk, children should not have this happen to them when they are young so that we can limit the chance of them doing it when they grow up. When the child is not taught at young age to learn, they will not learn when they grow up. That’s why it is very important to introduce virtues, ethics and good habits to them when they are young. Read More